Monthly Archives: May 2011

Relaciones afectivas de hoy en dia


El avance tecnológico no solo está evolucionando la manera de vivir de las personas, sino las relaciones afectivas también estan pasando por profundas transformaciones y revolucionando el concepto de amor. Lo que se busca hoy en día es una relación compatible con los tiempos modernos, en la que exista individualidad, respeto, alegría y placer por estar juntos y no una relación de dependencia, en la que uno responzabiliza al otro de su bienestar.

La idea de que una persona sea el remedio para nuestra felicidad, que nació con el romanticismo, está llamada a desaparecer en este inicio de siglo. El amor romantico parte de la premisa de que somos una parte y necesitamos encontrar nuestra otra mitad para sentirnos completos. Muchas veces ocurre hasta un proceso de despersonalización que, históricamente, ha alcanzado más a la mujer. Ella abandona sus características para amalgamarse al proyecto masculino. La teoria de la unión entre opuestos también viene de esta raíz: el otro tiene que saber hacer lo que yo no sé. Si soy manso, ella debe ser agresiva, y asi todo lo demás. Una idea practica de supervivencia, y poco romántica, por más señas.

La palabra de orden de este siglo es asociación. Estamos cambiando el amor de necesidad, por el amor de deseo. Me gusta y deseo la compañía, pero no la necesito, lo que es muy diferente. Con el avance tecnológico que exige más tiempo individual, las personas están perdiendo el miedo a estar solas, y aprendiendo a vivir mejor consigo mismas. Ellas están comenzando a darse cuenta que se sienten parte, pero son enteras. El otro con el cual se establece un vínculo, también se siente una parte. No es el príncipe o salvador de ninguna cosa, es solamente un compañero de viaje. El hombre es un animal que va cambiando el mundo, y después tiene que irse reciclando para adaptarse al mundo que fabricó.

Estamos entrando en la era de la individualidad, donde cada persona trata de plantearse metas y lograrlas a través de tiempo y esfuerzo. La nueva forma de amor, o más amor, tiene nuevo aspecto y significado. Apunta a la aproximación de dos enteros, y no a la unión de dos mitades. Y ella solo es posible, para aquellos que consiguieron trabajar su individualidad. Cuanto más fuera el individuo capaz de vivir sólo, más preparado estará para una buena relación afectiva. La soledad es buena, estar sólo no es vergonzoso. Al contrario, da dignidad a la persona. Las buenas relaciones afectivas son óptimas, son muy parecidas con estar sólo, nadie exige nada de nadie y ambos crecen.

Relaciones de dominación y de concesiones exageradas son cosas del siglo pasado. Cada cerebro es único. Nuestro modo de pensar y actuar no sirve de referencia para evaluar a nadie. Muchas veces pensamos que el otro es nuestra alma gemela y en verdad, lo que hacemos, es inventarlo a nuestro gusto. Todas las personas deberían de estar sólas de vez en cuando, para establecer un diálogo interno y descubrir su fuerza personal. En la soledad, el individuo entiende que la armonía y la paz de espiritú solo se pueden encontrar dentro de uno mismo, y no a partir de los demás. Al percibir ésto, el se vuelve menos crítico y más comprensivo con las diferencias, respetando la forma de ser de cada uno.

El amor de dos personas enteras es el bien más saludable. En este tipo de unión está el abrigo, el placer de la compañía y el respeto por el ser amado. No siempre es suficiente ser perdonado por alguién. Algunas veces hay que aprender a perdonarse a sí mismos.

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Pan Dulce Emergency …


My favorite dinner or breakfast is Pan Dulce y cafe con leche and today I have been craving some all day. Unfortunately the little town that we live with has no “REAL” pan dulce to speak of. There is the Mexican market and they do have pan dulce but it is not good, not even okay. Then there is the one tiny little shop that is in the next town where a piece of pan will cost you about a buck a piece. This is pretty expensive, I have been buying pan dulce all my life and usually get 3 pieces for a dollar. Remember, we are a family of 10 and we each need at least 2 pieces of bread to make it a real meal, so I can not pay one dollar per piece. I would end up paying over 20 bucks for bread…gimme a break! 

Oh what I wouldn’t do for a nice sweet cuerno, or maybe a chocolate concha with some hot cafe con leche! I would also love an empanada de calabaza. Have you ever tried those? The store I mentioned above has some really good ones, that are about $1.60 a piece and made with wheat flour. They are so yummy and soft and the filling is just right. I could have one of those every day, if only they weren’t so expensive and far away. I guess I am going to have to keep craving…and craving some more. At least until I completely break down and tell BF to rush me down there to get some. Have you ever had an empanada emergency? I seem to have them all the time. It’s no wonder I have gained like 60 pounds in two years!

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Is The Kindle Latino Friendly?


I am in LOVE with my Kindle and even though I have only had it since February it already has 150 books/games loaded on it. I had originally asked for the Nook and was a bit bummed when BF got me this instead but now I am now completely happy with it because of all the freebies and super affordable titles I have gotten from Amazon. My only problem with Amazon and the Kindle though is the utter lack of quality Spanish books. My BF has the Kindle app on his Blackberry and is now even talking about buying himself the lower priced Kindle. But in my opinion, if you consider the amount of titles that are available in Spanish, it would not be worth it at all.

Right after he downloaded his app I decided to buy him his first book and I am not lying when I tell you that it took me over an hour to find one that I felt was semi-decent. If you look at the numbers that Amazon carries it is 9,554 books in Spanish, however as I was scrolling though the titles most of the books I found were not titles I would ever read and that I knew he would not enjoy. Some books seem completely old fashioned and a lot (too many in my eyes) were bibles or religious titles. There is also an extreme amount of what I would almost call PORN, with pictures on the cover of half naked men and women. Not that there is anything wrong with that I guess, if that is what floats your boat then go for it, but what happens when all you want to read is a good suspense novel. Where are the Stephen King, Dean Koontz, James Patterson’s of the Spanish speaking world?? Or why are there not enough translations in stock?? La Diosa perdida (Spanish Edition)

After what felt like forever I finally found what sounded like a nice suspenseful read for him, La Diosa Perdida. At only $2.99 it was a really great value and I hope he does enjoy it. Still I am not looking forward to the search for the next title once he finishes this one and until we start seeing more quality titles in Spanish I will not recommend that he buy his own device. I wonder if Amazon even knows how much business they are losing by not providing a larger Spanish library.

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It’s Time~ 1/2 off Frappuccinos at Starbucks ~!


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It’s time! Starbucks is offering 1/2 off Frappuccinos during their afternoon Happy Hour 3-5 p.m. From May 6, 2011 to May 15, 2011. We are not going to make it today, but plan on being there tomorrow and Sunday! Now we can enjoy Starbuck’s more often, at least while this promotion runs.

Happy Frapping!

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5 de Mayo


El dia 5 de mayo se festeja en Mexico con un homenaje conmemorativo para recordar el 5 de mayo de 1862, dia en que el Ejercito de Oriente, al mando del General Ignacio Zaragoza, derroto en la Ciudad de Puebla, a las tropas francesas invasoras que deseaban establecer un gobierno imperialista.
Oficialmente no se suspenden labores este dia en Mexico, solo es un dia para recordar y conmemorar a los heroes mexicanos que lucharon contra la intervencion francesa, incluso, las clases escolares tampoco se suspenden.

Lo sorprendente es que en Estados Unidos se festeja el 5 de mayo como el dia mas glorioso de la historia de Mexico, incluso mucho mas que el dia de la independencia, que es el 16 de seprtiembre. Tanto mexicanos que habitan en territorio estadounidense, como ciudadados americanos, se encargan de dar a este dia el color festivo mexicano que lo engrandece como el dia de mayor trascendencia en la historia de Mexico, mucho mas de lo que se festeja en este ultimo Pais. Increible, no?

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The World Is In Chaos…


Today I am feeling a bit overwhelmed. So much is happening, and so many of those things are bad. With all the news on the internet and the tv about bin Ladens death, and the people celebrating. To me it seems so wrong, and when I see the people jumping and cheering it makes me wonder what kind of people can celebrate a death. I know this was a horrible man, and I know he did terrible things, but to stand there and celebrate his death is not something I could ever do.

6-year-old Girl Chasing Ball Killed by Hit-and-Run DriverThen I see a story about a little girl getting hit in front of her home two nights ago and dying while the driver sped off. This little girl who has such a sweet and innocent face, playing at almost 10pm with a ball, then chasing it into the street where she was struck. Why was this little girl outside so late at night, and with a ball? Don’t we all know the dangers of a child playing in a street with a ball? Her death was so unavoidable, and yet this 6 year old baby is no longer with us while the person who killed her is still at large.

Then there is the guy who just just got sentenced to over 30 years in prison for beating his girlfriends 2 year old boy to death. He struck him in the abdomen so hard that the baby passed out and they were never able to revive him. A two year old is just a tiny baby, why in the world would anyone ever feel the need to hurt a little baby like that?

This is the reason why I try never to watch the news or log into my favorite news website. It seems all there is to read and see is such sad stories. Stories about how we human beings can turn into animals and commit such horrible acts. Life is already hard enough as it is, especially in these troubled economical times, and I never understand why some people do what they do to others. Instead of all of us working for a better tomorrow, it’s like we are working to cut each other down.

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Moving to Self-Hosted WordPress….HOW?


This poor blog has been sitting here until I find out how to move it over to self-hosted wordpress. Once we saw the charges that you can pay here to get a domain and upgrade we decided we might as well host it elsewhere so we can get the very hand GFC followers widget and some other stuff on it that we can’t use right now.

How?? Is the question of the hour…how in the world does one self-host. Our other blogs are on blogger so I have never had to worry about this, but we want to get this one situated before we do more posting and before we can begin to promote it.

It’s a busy day for me…full of doctors and school appointments but by this weekend I have to take time to look around for a how-to guide or maybe look into hiring someone to do the move. This is not exactly fun 😦

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